Happy 3-Minute Thursday!

You are busy, so let's make this quick. No fluff, no filler, no spamming. Just three minutes each week could change everything.

Minute 1 - Why you should choose a messy home.

A messy home is beautiful evidence you're doing something right as a parent. Never forget you have little humans following and watching what you prioritize. When you choose to shut down emotionally, it affects more than just you. The choice to take on too much. The choice to be gone. The choice to keep holding onto anger. The choice to not look after yourself. The choice to treat them badly, put them down, or treat them unfairly. Choose a messy home full of love every time.

Minute 2 - Evocative description of God's joy.

Jalal al-Din Rumi (1207-1273), "Unmarked Boxes":

God's joy moves from unmarked box to unmarked box,
from cell to cell. As rainwater, down into flower bed.
As roses, up from ground.
Now it looks like a plate of rice and fish,
now a cliff covered with vines,
now a horse being saddled.
It hides within these,
till one day it cracks them open

This beautiful and evocative description of God's joy moving from place to place reminds me that joy can be found everywhere, even in the most unexpected places. The idea that joy is hiding in ordinary things and just waiting to be found makes me want to look at the world more closely and find joy in the small and ordinary things.

Minute 3 - Reflection on pleasing people.

Where are you spending energy trying to please someone who actually doesn't care?

Ask yourself why you're trying to please this person. Are you trying to please them because you care about what they think, or because you feel like you have to? If the second is true, it might be time to rethink the relationship and think about setting some boundaries.

First three steps to setting boundaries:

  1. Set boundaries: Consider your limitations. Assess your ideals, needs, and comfort levels in relationships.
  2. Consistently enforce your boundaries: This will demonstrate your commitment to your boundaries.
  3. Communicate your boundaries: State them clearly and assertively after determining your boundaries.
Where are you wasting your time trying to please people who don't care? I want to hear from you. Send your reflections or thoughts by simply replying to this email.

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Until next week,

Payton Minzenmayer

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3MN: choosing messy homes, an evocative description of God's love, and pleasing people.