Happy 3-Minute Thursday!

You are busy, so let's make this quick. No fluff, no filler, no spamming. Just three minutes each week could change everything.

Minute 1 - An idea on errands and adventures.

A journey where the outcome is known is called an errand. A journey where the outcome is unknown is called an adventure. Go on in adventure. Don't just run errands.

I tend to overthink and plan too much. My motives are pure. I really just want to squeeze every positive moment out of every event. Yet in my eagerness to accomplish everything, I often fail to really appreciate any given situation for what it is.

Minute 2 - Three things to grow shame.

From Dr. Brene Brown:

"If you put shame in a Petri dish, it needs three things to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence and judgment. If you put the same amount of shame in a Petri dish and douse it with empathy, it can’t survive."

Have you ever put on old shame? It's like putting on a damp workout shirt. It stinks, makes your body cold, and wraps itself around you in the most terrible way. It's crucial to identify the moments when we're reliving our past shame and work toward healing it.

Minute 3 - Reflection on your marriage.

In what ways have you and your partner grown and evolved together over the course of your marriage, and what do you see as the key factors that have contributed to your long-term success and happiness?

When two people get married, their chemistry is usually off the charts. However, with time, many come to find heated arguments, petty bickering, and tremendous disappointments.

I don’t know if you have noticed, but marriage is failing everywhere. A ballpark average is that 50% of marriages do not go the distance.

These three will kill any marriage given enough time.

Not Making Intimacy A Priority.
Failing To Understand What My Partner Needs From Me.
Not Making My Expectations Clear. Keep Reading Here

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What do you think are the most important things that have led to your success and happiness in marriage? I want to hear from you. Send your reflections or thoughts by simply replying to this email.

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Until next week,

Payton Minzenmayer

p.s. Cassettes are making a comeback?

3MN: why the unknown is good, growing shame, and what three things kill all marriages.