3MN: a simple way to fix all your problems, transactional relationships & not fixing people.

Happy 3-Minute Thursday!

You are busy, so let's make this quick. No fluff, no filler, no spamming. Just three minutes each week could change everything.

💤 Minute 1 - How to know if your problems are really problems.

Your problems adjust to their true level of importance after a hard workout and a good night of sleep.

After pushing your body to its limits and giving your mind a chance to recharge, the problems that once seemed overwhelming often shrink down to their true size. It's a reminder that taking care of ourselves can have a ripple effect on the rest of our lives.

👯‍♀️ Minute 2 - The trap of transactional relationships.

Ronald Sharp on how friendship transforms us (or any great relationship, really):

It’s not about what someone can do for you, it's who and what the two of you become in each other's presence.

This quote speaks to me because it's so easy to fall into the trap of transactional relationships—you scratch my back, I'll scratch yours. But at the end of the day, the people who truly impact our lives are the ones we enjoy being around. There's no ulterior motive or hidden agenda—just a genuine connection that enriches our lives. Plus, it doesn't hurt if they also happen to make killer guacamole.

🙉 Minute 3 - Stop feeling compelled to fix other people or their problems.

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Are we truly helping others by fixing their problems, or are we inadvertently enabling them to become dependent on us?

Stop feeling compelled to fix other people or their problems. It may feel cold or heartless at first, but simply allow the people in your life to take responsibility for their own problems. Then see what happens.

Three practical next steps for implementing this idea:

Practice active listening and empathetic responses when someone shares their problems with you, rather than jumping in with solutions.
Encourage and support others in finding their own solutions, rather than offering unsolicited advice or taking over the situation.
Take time for self-reflection to understand why we feel the need to fix other people's problems and work on letting go of that need for control.

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Can you share any personal experiences where this dynamic played out? I want to hear from you. Send your reflections or thoughts by simply replying to this email.

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Until next week,

Payton Minzenmayer

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